Blog Number 2....At Last

We finally were on vacation for six days in New Hampshire and Maine.  The whole fam-damily were there, charming and joyful.  Holy Cow!!!

We finally had our alone time and there we were riding a rain soaked Route 1 in Maine and there was my swivel head spotting a yarn shop!  It is called “YARN SELLERS”.  Oh no! I thought immediately “no more yarn!”  I am a confessed yarn hoarder.

Okay…..I did give in and focused on looking for books with new patterns.  A very perky woman with an English accent chatting informed me she was from Britain, an employee who knows that shop and is so sincere and kind.  I slowly sucked in the visual attempting to ignore it at the same time.  The store had many nooks and crannies in different rooms.  The door opened and in walked a perky white haired lady, who sported a lovely Irish accent, two minutes later another lady charged in exclaiming “What a wonderful specialty yarn shop.”  Then exclaimed she was from Scotland!  Oh Yeah!  I had the British Isles-my favorite places all in one space. I was offered tea but refused as I was already drinking in my fond memories of visits to the British Isles.  I was drooling over the colors of the yarn when I heard the Irish lady state that: “Men have simple minds.”

O.K., I said to me, a reading for the Blog page.  This lovely lady then said:  “Women’s minds go around the whole world!”

I felt not only at home but did notice I did not run my usual statement:  “Is this situation real and is it also incoming for me to pass on”.  There are no mistakes, I felt more joyful and yes, I did buy “some” yarn, lucky me, and yes, I am passing this incident to you, we are the generations that help the future people of this planet moving into truth of our differentials not anger and mental confusion.

We women do have this our minds going a million minutes a second, we don’t stop until we know, it is invigorating to use my mind, it pleases me when I ask it to perform, now we know enough to open our minds as we surrender our emotional part to bring in messages from our guides and angels.  After all it is our nature to multi-task since we have done it through the ages so successfully, now is our time to carry our joy filled days as we love life so!

Let’s cover some simple facts:  Women have wider peripheral vision, men have tunnel vision. Keep in mind none of this information is negative to either sex.  A woman with a wider arc of peripheral finds the butter in the fridge, whereas men move their head from side to side, or up and down which is irritating, try it!       

This is fun!  Woman can ogle other men without being caught conversely men get caught looking at other women!  We women can listen into many conversations at once which are irritating too, we find we have to turn off and refocus.

Men have better long distance night vision than woman. We have ability to hear and separate sounds, men can hear the direction the sound is coming from which is why they are good hunters over the centuries.

Men can be telling the truth when they say to you:  “I don’t know what you’re talking about!”  The ability to follow details in a situation is not as easy for men as it is for a woman.

Skin is the largest organ on our body, we all need touch to thrive, and in our society men and women once they are trained to wipe themselves alone in the bath room are not always touched at all!  This organ called skin is a transmitter to comfort, validation of another beings caring, it is difficult and very lonely when we all turn ourselves into non-touchable people for any reason at all.

Please bear in mind our womanly assumption that men “Know” what they did or did not do, for men the devil is in the details, men are not intrigued to look at themselves as “wrong” or “stupid”, the information is not wanted from you, they do not hold on to details- we do, most of miscommunication is most times an assumption that what “he” did was deliberate.  Ladies we are not equal in many, many ways.  I leave these “details” for now because a little of this goes a long way!

I turn the focus to the individual “you” male or female, the one standing truth you imagine in your mind is he/she must change!   This fantasy is the worst car wreck in the world.  We of any sex can/do think, okay we’re living together, we’re married, now let’s change him/her!  Worse?  Let’s fix him/her. 

The term used for many is called nagging, a spirit killer for the receiver and the nagger (so to speak).

There are many moments in life, thousands of them that are simple “projection” onto the other person, place or thing.  To a man hearing one small voiced statement regarding how he must change is a total vibration of shame/guilt/helplessness and anger. Their next move is running for the hills.

We all need to mind our mind, some days are easier than others, we live in this metaphoric world, remind yourselves again and again, apologize immediately to the other person and then to yourself.  I worked with a woman once in a doctor’s office, her statement always gave me the giggles in that is was ecumenical, it is this:  “Do you think it’s easy?”.    NO!  It is not easy Dimmit! a simple reality of reprogram yourself and think before you speak, yes, it is true we are not trained to do that either!

Here it is!  Hollywood presents a lot of help to all of us humans, do you recall this one?  “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you, getting to like you getting to hope you like me!”

Good old “The Sound of Music” This sentence said, “getting to I like you” means –‘it is my wish for me that you will like me the same”.  This is a wish; it is not reality yet until you “check out reality with the other person”.

There are many times that we have no idea that our mind is in there wrecking havoc in thoughts that begin as benign and then all hell is turned loose, it is more like this other song that we used to sing:  “Some Day My Prince Will Come”.  If you want to cure this little corker go see “Come into the Woods”.  By Soundheim

There are slogans that work well, one of them is this:  You cannot CHANGE another person, you cannot CONTROL another person, you cannot CURE another person, that’s it.  Learn to keep reminding yourself to accept that person, show compassion inside of you, talk to that person in a kind manner. No one asks you to suffer fools, certainly not I; there are a lot of toxic people out there.  One of the greatest gifts you can/may give yourself is peace of mind, body and spirit, a vital knowing of these parts of you will present yourself sanctuary.

When I started dating my husband in 1957, we went to see the movie:  “The Hunchback of Notre Dame”.  I did listen to my mind telling me at a few points in my marriage:  “SANCTUARY…SANCTUARY…SANCTUARY!  It is a great red light which means, close the door, don’t answer the phone, what is it “I” need to restore myself?  Work on restoration in life anyplace and anywhere and please make it up as you go along in the present moment.  Remind yourself to keep the dungeon door shut called:  EAT…………EAT MORE…….EAT CHOCOLATE….SPEND MONEY AND ON AND ON THAT IS A COP OUT AND YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT.    

I now recall being at the Cliff House in Maine for a week-end sojourn with my husband’s idea of vacation is sleep, sleep and sleep whereas I was gung ho!  Let’s do this, let’s do that, blah-blah-blah.  I left the room with my art supplies and found a bench to sit on; I started sketching the rocks/trees/ocean smashing away.  I noticed I had a young man asking me if I minded if he watched me draw, I told him no. 

In five minutes or so I heard Rip Van Winkle coming along, and the young man left.

My husband informed me, “He saw me come along and he left”. A Small smile showing there on his face (territorial male?)  I informed him this:  “When he saw you he knew how old I was”.

We still laugh at it!

MALE/FEMALE BRAIN DIFFERENCIALS…….AND /OR …YOU WON’T BELIEVE THE TRUTH

This will be an ongoing subject each time the blogs are changed. We will look at a different topic so that we may examine the differences with an emotional distance not only to take the information into ourselves without emotional charge but to allow the mind to think and accept the learning regarding…..Men!

  In the readings I do I hear and see the same initial information.  If we consider going back in time we see men leaving the cave going on a hunt, when successful he comes home dragging the dead animal, the hero, no doubt about it. 

Then satisfaction comes into the man and the women and children alike.  The man also grows in spatial learning as he treks over mountains, forests and streams to find what to eat. 

I had been jealous that my husband always knows where North is when we discuss driving, using maps etc.  I think how can this be innate in men and why don’t I have it?  Obviously in order to find his way back to the cave he has trained himself over the ages how not to get lost.

Conversely we women have what is called clairsentience as we are the mother’s and/or caregivers, we innately walk onto a scene and get the big picture immediately.  Clairsentience is pulling in the information around you with your mind as receiver, your body tattle-tailing as if a mirror of others physical pain and your emotions giving you the information rapidly as to what went on here or is going on in the scene you are standing in. 

We women have wide peripheral vision, one time I “saw” something going on behind me, I asked myself if I had eyes in the back of my head which it felt like and it does feel that way. An old joke from my mother was, “I have eyes in the back of my head.”

The readings continually tell me that women are the most intelligent sex on the planet due to their abilities and their emotional resiliency.  If you go back in your mind into the past centuries, or watched movies of war within tribes, you saw the women run to hide the babies and children while stabbing the enemy in the gut as we ran by them.  We have a past of life and death need in regard to what we see through the centuries, a wider peripheral range due to any emergency in the past.

Conversely, men are the better night drivers as they have better long night vision than women.  I see how we do complement each other as we look at the differences.  At times I see a whole person being a man and a woman combined which makes sense due to the missing pieces inside us.

Today men are using their intuitive ability now more than ever, a step up from the past.  In a woman’s brain we have superior sensory equipment in order to analyze information.  It is very stimulating to actually see what is going on and what did happen.  I always see it as a challenge to know all the time.

We have abilities and strong wills to untangle situations. Is it because we want to know or is it an old “on guard” intuitive attitude in order to stay alive? 

I hate to brag but we women hear better than men.   Is it our compassionate hearts that listens for the babies’ cry or is it our total being on red alert to stay alive and be the protector of the children?  The other conundrum is my husband saying  “I can’t find the butter or the cream in the fridge.”   The devil is in the details which men miss a lot of the time.  Bear in mind with all this information that you know, or that you did not know you knew, that men do not do these things to just drive you crazy, they drive themselves crazy.  I am not asking you to have pity I am asking you to give yourself permission to start to understand at times it becomes difficult to live with a man.   

More to come,   Pat

MEDICINE SHIELD…THE GATHERING OF YOU!

This knowledge is for the subconscious part of you, you need not think you have to/ or want to become a shamanic person, the goal here is internal healing, the metaphoric healing changes attitudes you may know or not know that is possibly inhibiting your sense of well being. 

Please remind yourself constantly that you are doing this for yourself and only you.  This means no conversations with others, even if they are in your presence and witness you picking up a bird feather or buying a trinket or a deer skin at a Pow Wow. This is strictly between you and only you.  A secret…….absolutely!  

While there is no good reason to wait a year there is good reason to allow this side of you to be always at the quick to take your answers very seriously regarding an object you have found that calls for secreting itself away until the time of shield building.

I am open in future to have a gathering here in my home in Bourne, with interested women who would like to study this phenomenon of change.  This would be a workshop and also a teaching tool for each woman as shield building is empowerment at its finest.