Blog Number 2....At Last

We finally were on vacation for six days in New Hampshire and Maine.  The whole fam-damily were there, charming and joyful.  Holy Cow!!!

We finally had our alone time and there we were riding a rain soaked Route 1 in Maine and there was my swivel head spotting a yarn shop!  It is called “YARN SELLERS”.  Oh no! I thought immediately “no more yarn!”  I am a confessed yarn hoarder.

Okay…..I did give in and focused on looking for books with new patterns.  A very perky woman with an English accent chatting informed me she was from Britain, an employee who knows that shop and is so sincere and kind.  I slowly sucked in the visual attempting to ignore it at the same time.  The store had many nooks and crannies in different rooms.  The door opened and in walked a perky white haired lady, who sported a lovely Irish accent, two minutes later another lady charged in exclaiming “What a wonderful specialty yarn shop.”  Then exclaimed she was from Scotland!  Oh Yeah!  I had the British Isles-my favorite places all in one space. I was offered tea but refused as I was already drinking in my fond memories of visits to the British Isles.  I was drooling over the colors of the yarn when I heard the Irish lady state that: “Men have simple minds.”

O.K., I said to me, a reading for the Blog page.  This lovely lady then said:  “Women’s minds go around the whole world!”

I felt not only at home but did notice I did not run my usual statement:  “Is this situation real and is it also incoming for me to pass on”.  There are no mistakes, I felt more joyful and yes, I did buy “some” yarn, lucky me, and yes, I am passing this incident to you, we are the generations that help the future people of this planet moving into truth of our differentials not anger and mental confusion.

We women do have this our minds going a million minutes a second, we don’t stop until we know, it is invigorating to use my mind, it pleases me when I ask it to perform, now we know enough to open our minds as we surrender our emotional part to bring in messages from our guides and angels.  After all it is our nature to multi-task since we have done it through the ages so successfully, now is our time to carry our joy filled days as we love life so!

Let’s cover some simple facts:  Women have wider peripheral vision, men have tunnel vision. Keep in mind none of this information is negative to either sex.  A woman with a wider arc of peripheral finds the butter in the fridge, whereas men move their head from side to side, or up and down which is irritating, try it!       

This is fun!  Woman can ogle other men without being caught conversely men get caught looking at other women!  We women can listen into many conversations at once which are irritating too, we find we have to turn off and refocus.

Men have better long distance night vision than woman. We have ability to hear and separate sounds, men can hear the direction the sound is coming from which is why they are good hunters over the centuries.

Men can be telling the truth when they say to you:  “I don’t know what you’re talking about!”  The ability to follow details in a situation is not as easy for men as it is for a woman.

Skin is the largest organ on our body, we all need touch to thrive, and in our society men and women once they are trained to wipe themselves alone in the bath room are not always touched at all!  This organ called skin is a transmitter to comfort, validation of another beings caring, it is difficult and very lonely when we all turn ourselves into non-touchable people for any reason at all.

Please bear in mind our womanly assumption that men “Know” what they did or did not do, for men the devil is in the details, men are not intrigued to look at themselves as “wrong” or “stupid”, the information is not wanted from you, they do not hold on to details- we do, most of miscommunication is most times an assumption that what “he” did was deliberate.  Ladies we are not equal in many, many ways.  I leave these “details” for now because a little of this goes a long way!

I turn the focus to the individual “you” male or female, the one standing truth you imagine in your mind is he/she must change!   This fantasy is the worst car wreck in the world.  We of any sex can/do think, okay we’re living together, we’re married, now let’s change him/her!  Worse?  Let’s fix him/her. 

The term used for many is called nagging, a spirit killer for the receiver and the nagger (so to speak).

There are many moments in life, thousands of them that are simple “projection” onto the other person, place or thing.  To a man hearing one small voiced statement regarding how he must change is a total vibration of shame/guilt/helplessness and anger. Their next move is running for the hills.

We all need to mind our mind, some days are easier than others, we live in this metaphoric world, remind yourselves again and again, apologize immediately to the other person and then to yourself.  I worked with a woman once in a doctor’s office, her statement always gave me the giggles in that is was ecumenical, it is this:  “Do you think it’s easy?”.    NO!  It is not easy Dimmit! a simple reality of reprogram yourself and think before you speak, yes, it is true we are not trained to do that either!

Here it is!  Hollywood presents a lot of help to all of us humans, do you recall this one?  “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you, getting to like you getting to hope you like me!”

Good old “The Sound of Music” This sentence said, “getting to I like you” means –‘it is my wish for me that you will like me the same”.  This is a wish; it is not reality yet until you “check out reality with the other person”.

There are many times that we have no idea that our mind is in there wrecking havoc in thoughts that begin as benign and then all hell is turned loose, it is more like this other song that we used to sing:  “Some Day My Prince Will Come”.  If you want to cure this little corker go see “Come into the Woods”.  By Soundheim

There are slogans that work well, one of them is this:  You cannot CHANGE another person, you cannot CONTROL another person, you cannot CURE another person, that’s it.  Learn to keep reminding yourself to accept that person, show compassion inside of you, talk to that person in a kind manner. No one asks you to suffer fools, certainly not I; there are a lot of toxic people out there.  One of the greatest gifts you can/may give yourself is peace of mind, body and spirit, a vital knowing of these parts of you will present yourself sanctuary.

When I started dating my husband in 1957, we went to see the movie:  “The Hunchback of Notre Dame”.  I did listen to my mind telling me at a few points in my marriage:  “SANCTUARY…SANCTUARY…SANCTUARY!  It is a great red light which means, close the door, don’t answer the phone, what is it “I” need to restore myself?  Work on restoration in life anyplace and anywhere and please make it up as you go along in the present moment.  Remind yourself to keep the dungeon door shut called:  EAT…………EAT MORE…….EAT CHOCOLATE….SPEND MONEY AND ON AND ON THAT IS A COP OUT AND YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT.    

I now recall being at the Cliff House in Maine for a week-end sojourn with my husband’s idea of vacation is sleep, sleep and sleep whereas I was gung ho!  Let’s do this, let’s do that, blah-blah-blah.  I left the room with my art supplies and found a bench to sit on; I started sketching the rocks/trees/ocean smashing away.  I noticed I had a young man asking me if I minded if he watched me draw, I told him no. 

In five minutes or so I heard Rip Van Winkle coming along, and the young man left.

My husband informed me, “He saw me come along and he left”. A Small smile showing there on his face (territorial male?)  I informed him this:  “When he saw you he knew how old I was”.

We still laugh at it!